Why I feel that Michelle is the future of the family

The shorter version: “Lā ilāha illā-llāh, Muḥammadur-rasūlu-llāh”

(لَا إِلٰهَ إِلَّا الله مُحَمَّدٌ رَسُولُ الله)

Meaning: “There is no god worthy of worship except Allah, and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.”

Or the complete version: “Ash-hadu al-lā ilāha illā-llāhu waḥdahu lā sharīka lahu, wa-ash-hadu anna Muḥammadan ʿabduhu wa-rasūluhu”

(أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلٰهَ إِلَّا الله وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيْكَ لَهُ وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ)

Meaning: “I bear witness that there is no god worthy of worship except Allah alone, who has no partners, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and messenger.”

"You came through the worst of times, be proud of what you have achieved in a very short period but also remember your daughters. We Africans value children so much and given your unbiased beliefs and love for a different race for romance, I'd say you will be as successful as you want to be." - James Ekwem, business partner

Update: I have arrived in Johannesburg, South Africa and we are planning to marry in the Week 16th-20th February, 2026 to allow my daughters to attend – this is during a school holiday. Get set for some breathtaking pictures!

Further updates will be issued later

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Before I came to China, my ex wife attempted to re-enter my life like a blast from the past. And was told, in no uncertain terms, well, she should have stayed there!

So, let me explain what I am NOT looking for in a lady (and I mean lady) before I proceed any further. I am NOT interested in…

• Scammers and/or gold diggers – my ex wife was a gold digger in the first degree. No way Jose! I am not going to be treated as a 24/7 money vending machine. If you are this type of woman, you can marry a narcissistic slave driver like Elon Musk.

• I do not want a layabout who abhors every form of progress.

• Please do not bring in-laws from hell who will eat away at our relationship.

• At the other end of the spectrum, I do not want a career freak either. I want someone with ambition – but there is a concept of ‘too much of a good thing’!

• There is not much explaining to be done here, but I do not want to be cheated on. I have not done this myself, it’s not nice, and it was one of several things that helped to end my first marriage. My first wife accused me for years, before being caught at it herself! How I hate a hypocrite

• I do not want to be locked into the ‘UK cost of living trap’. Unlike my naive 80 year old mother who is not in any way a modern or worldly person, and who has lived like a hermit after falling into the trap of having no life experience and hence, not knowing any better, I have broadened my horizons. Sometimes you need to have broad horizons in order to realise how bad – or expensive – your situation is, in order to have the esoteric knowledge to avoid such a trap. Such as the ‘responsible behaviour scam’ as I call it; see below. gemini://dfdn.info/justice/ResponsibleBehaviourTax.gmi

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• I want someone who is open minded like me. No Victorian ‘children should be seen and not heard’ mentality as I suffered in my childhood (that phrase is banned in the Norris family of today, by my decree – I am head of the family now!).

• I like someone who believes that life is too precious to waste – one only lives once. I shudder at the ‘work, telly, bed’ lifestyle of my parents before me.

• I like ladies who are able to care for themselves – it demonstrates that they can care for their children too. We have to support each other; nobody will do it for us. To have and to hold...

• And no drug addicts please. I have gone through a lot; I do not need that **** in my life, thanks.

So now I have talked about what Michelle isn’t, let me explain what she is...

Relationships need empathy to survive. And I certainly feel that with Michelle far more than with anyone I have previously been with. Any relationship where mutual respect is absent is bound to fail. If you are married, you will end up in a loveless marriage which is either an abusive marriage or a ‘marriage of convenience’ – or both!

In fact, a very strong bond was established very quickly since we are almost a mirror image of each other with almost identical life experience. In fact, we are both over sensitive as a result – and although it can cause issues from time to time, we are both able and willing to manage this.

I feel that empathy – what might be termed ‘sixth sense communication’ is of vital importance – without it in a relationship, you have nothing.

Likely questions answered…

• Q: Where is Michelle from?

• A: From Cameroon – it is just north of the Equator on the western side of Africa, south of Nigeria.

• Q: Where does she live now?

• A: Johannesburg, South Africa. Where we will live for the time being. Of course, I do need a source of income. Developments are in the pipeline. Living costs are low in South Africa. Just what we need to get the family back on its feet!

• Q: Why does she say that I am like a lion? (Yes she does - and had done since we met, actually!)

• A: Well I am not particularly fierce (nor do I bite the lionesses neck during sex!). Seriously, I think it has more to do with my strength of character. My former wife used to call me ‘lazy man, weak man, useless man’. She later learn t the hard way, that it is foolish to mistake leniency for weakness. She got a rude awakening in 2016 and since! The reality is that most in my family previously have meekly accepted their fate, in a way that I do not.

• Q: What languages does she speak?

• A: French is her first language. She also speaks English and Arabic.

• Q: From what background is she?

• A: She is from the Fulani Tribe.

The Fulani (Fula) people on gemipedia

• Q: What is her religion?

• A: She is Muslim.

• Q: Yes she been married before?

• A: No, she said nobody felt ‘right’ – before me!

• Q: Has she got children?

• A: No, but she wants children, and we are trying for our first baby.

• Q: What is your policy on your children and their religion?

• A: My own policy is non-intervention; I feel that my children should be free to decide for themselves, just as they should be free to decide on their career choice – so long as their chosen career is law-abiding, naturally.

• Q: Where might we retire?

• A: I have long expressed my horror of retiring in the UK. In short, it is too cold, too expensive, and I see what many people’s retirements in the UK are like. Lonely, miserable and impoverished. Financial security is a thing of the past. And then, there is the risk of falling into the ‘responsible behaviour scam’ see above. No thanks! So, the most likely choices, when the time comes are South Africa, Nigeria or Cameroon. But this is some way in the future.

• Q: When did we get engaged?

• A: We got engaged in August 2025 and plan to marry in February 2026. Date will be in the February half term to allow my daughters to attend.

• Q: Will I become a Muslim?

• A: Any marriage to a Muslim lady, requires it, not as a point of law but as a rule of that religion. Michelle has a large extended family and, although it will require adaption on my part, I know well the importance of maintaining good relations with them. And I have already demonstrated a willingness and capability to adapt to changed circumstances. I am in China to get away from the expensive UK and the CMS, for example. I will formally announce this on 12th night (January 5th) 2026 after spending one more Christmas as a Christian.

For an explanation of the CMS in the UK, see here.

• Q: How will this all affect the future of the family?

• A: I think it is fair to say that, in recent times, the family has not been doing too well. Indeed, as I have said in other articles, the family needs a change of direction. Let us face it, I am an only child; the UK is becoming more chaotic and expensive all the time. It has lost its sense of direction, the job market is hell, housing is in desperately short supply and brutally expensive, and the ‘Tory Run State’ acts in nobody’s interests but its own – and those of the wealthiest in society only. Graduate debt now averages £50000 and counting. By my definition any country which cannot even house people is a failed state. And now my mother is in a care home burning up my (and more importantly) my children’s – inheritance at £3000+ per month. The UK does not look after its elderly. This is the last straw!

Quite honestly, I think it is fair to say that the family needs a change of direction, before it is too late! And if I do not carry out the modernisation and reform of the family, nobody else can or will. After all, I already have demonstrated my willingness to adapt and to change as necessary. And above all, to boldly go where the family has previously feared to tread. I am in China as I write this. Yes, this has been an at-times, humerus, but nonetheless serious, explanation of the truth. I think it is fair to say I have a habit of suddenly pulling out my trump card, as I did when I suddenly revealed that I had found a way to get into university against the odds.

And as a 50 year old divorced man, I feel that Michelle has come along, just in the nick of time, to save me from a miserable and lonely future. My only complaint about her? If only she could have met me in 2006! But better late than never!